There are many ways in which middle school can be fun.    Middle schoolers are learning independence, developing new skills and making new friends.   Middle school is also drama central unfortunately. There's a lot of drama happening in middle school, from gossiping to arguments to bullying. And there's no escaping it now that your child is in middle school. But you can help your child minimize school drama with a few quick tips. Teaching her how to avoid or minimize school drama will help your child, not only in middle school, but in high school, college and beyond. It is important to point out what makes a great friend bit it is hard to tell a child who just wants to be accepted by her peers to choose her friends carefully. Encourage your child to develop friendships with people who have similar interests and who refrain from gossip and drama. Point out how a frenemy can be harmful and make life miserable. Gossip and drama will be minimal in case your child has great friendships. Gossip is the root of all school drama, and by avoiding it your child may steer clear of a lot of unnecessary drama. Encourage her to say NO to gossip and to resist the urge to pass it along.

How to avoid drama in middle school

A lot of the school drama that happens today begins on Facebook, Twitter or via email or texts. It's a lot to ask, but the benefits will probably outweigh the negatives in case your child waits a few years to open a Facebook account. Write a social networking contract that your tween has to sign in case you can't convince your child to steer clear of Facebook. The contract will detail what behavior is and is not allowed online. Let's face it, middle school can get ugly and so can the behavior of peers and even good friends. It might make more sense to help her learn how to shrug it off, rather than make a big deal over the incident while your child may feel slighted by or upset over the behavior of a friend. Tweens have a habit of making a big deal over trivial things. Help your child recognize the difference between an incident that requires follow-up and one that should just be forgotten or ignored. You want your child to confide in friends when she needs to, but it's also important for a tween or teen to know when to keep private information private. This is a hard lesson for some to learn, and many learn it the hard way. The bottom line: it's best not to tell anyone, or to only tell a close friend whom you know is reliable and will keep your secrets in case you don't want everyone to know about something. Your child should also understand that when a friend confides in her, she's not to spread the information around on the flip side. The exception is when a friend might be in a troubling situation, and then it might be wise to tell a trusted adult.