School has just started and my eight-year-old is getting into trouble already. His teacher has sent home several notes saying that he refuses to do his work, disrupts class, and doesn’t listen. I don’t get to hear his side of the story by the time he gets home he doesn’t want to talk about it so. It doesn’t seem to be helping although it sounds like the teacher makes him stay in for recess. Dealing with school behavior problems can be a bit tricky but there are certainly some steps you can take to encourage your son to behave while he’s at school. It’s essential that you work together with the teacher as a team and find appropriate consequences in order to encourage good behaviors. t is important to establish daily communication with your son’s teacher. Talk to his teacher about creating a daily behavior report card. Your son’s teacher will likely be familiar with this concept. Teachers use a system of greens, yellows, and reds to report on behaviors throughout the day sometimes. Other teachers use point systems where kids earn between one and three points during each class based on their behaviors.

Child's behavior problems at school

The teacher will complete a simple form each day to be sent home with your son, no matter which system is used. Now your son can deliver positive notes to you as well instead of just bringing notes home to report when he’s misbehaved. Make sure your son is aware of the behaviors he’ll be working on and how the teacher will track these behaviors. This will motivate him to want to bring home good reports. For days when your son behaves at school, establish positive consequences. Praise your son for his good reports. Celebrate his successes and motivate him to keep doing well. Creating of reward system or token economy system can help you to provide even more incentive to do well. He will most likely need a daily incentive. Establish a goal for him each day and reward him when he reaches it at his age. Such as time playing a video game, playing outside or anything that will motivate your child, reward s don’t need to cost money and can be simple things. Offer larger rewards on a weekly basis to encourage him to manage his behaviors all week long in addition to this. A trip to the park or something special that will motivate your son may be a good reward for example. Don’t expect perfection but instead get your child motivated to keep trying hard to improve his behaviors. Don’t allow him to earn a reward or privilege on days that he does not reach his goals. No other consequence should be necessary although there may be other natural consequences that he does not reach his goals. Problem-solve with him how he can do better the next day on the days when your son struggles with his behaviors.